Tony's Collected Definitions, Quotes and Lists
01/15/16

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Awareness
    Self-awareness is the capacity for introspection and the ability to recognize oneself as an individual separate from the environment and other individuals

    Having a clear perception of your personality, including strengths, weaknesses, thoughts, beliefs, motivation, and emotions

Action and Habit

    Action

        The process or state of acting or of being active
        Something done or performed; act; deed
    Habit
        An acquired behavior pattern, almost involuntary
        Actions can become habitual, good and bad
                Habitual actions can support, assist, lift, benefit, aid

                Or habitual actions can hinder, hamper, obstruct, impede, inhibit
Empty Your Cup
    If you truly seek understanding, then first, empty your cup.
        Just as more tea cannot be added to a full cup
        New knowledge and ideas need room in your mind before they can be understood


Fact, Fiction or Belief?
    Is it fact, truth, real, actual, scientifically provable?

    Or it is myth, lore, lie, fable, fantasy, legend, tradition, superstition, notion, story, conventional wisdom, common knowledge, wives tale, misinformation, deception, misrepresentation, advertising, entertainment, lacks scientific proof?

        Belief is based on one or the other, choose!

How to Find Fact
    Conduct an experiment yourself, prove it
    Seek and source multiple, trusted sources
    Fiction outnumbers and obscures truth. Finding truth takes effort, thought and is not easily discovered.
    Trust your source, always consider motivation
    Money corrupts, big money corrupt absolutely

SMART Goals
    S – specific
    M – measurable
    A – attainable
    R – realistic
    T – time bound, must have due date
        Goals need to be: Planned, Written, Remembered, Executed, Multi layered

Miracle Morning
• Your success will seldom exceed your personal development
• Six Practices (SAVERS)
    S - Silence (Meditation)

    A - Affirmations
    V - Visualizations
    E - Exercise
    R - Reading
    S - Scribing (Journaling)

Phases of Truth
• First it is ignored
• Second it is ridiculed
• Then violently opposed
• Finally it is accepted as self evident

Stages of Change, Loss and Grief
• Denial
• Anger
• Bargaining
• Depression
• Acceptance

Top Five Regrets of the Dying
• I wish I had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me
• I wish I had not worked so hard
• I wish I had the courage to express my feelings
• I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends
• I wish that I had let myself be happier

Post Traumatic Growth
• I understand myself better, I know who I really am
• Better able to focus on my goals and dreams.  Gain the ability to disengage from the uncontrollable or unsolvable
• A new sense of meaning and purpose in my life
• I feel closer to my friends and family
• I am not afraid to do what makes me happy

4 Kinds of Resilience
• Developing these aspects of your life will make you happier and you will live longer
• Physical, never sit still
• Mental, practice solving problems
• Emotional, seek out positive emotions
• Social, have a network of friends and family

Grit Makes a Difference
• Personality trait
• A positive non-cognitive trait based on individual passion for a particular long term goal coupled with a powerful motivation to achieve
• Perseverance of effort promotes overcoming obstacles that lie in the path of accomplishment and serves as a driving force in achievement realization
• Accomplishment of work versus latent ability

In Search of Excellence
• Bias for action, active decision making
• Close to the customer, learn from people served
• Autonomy and entrepreneurship, foster innovation and nurture champions
• Productivity through people, treat rank and file as source of quality
• Hands on, value driven philosophy guides daily practices
• Stick to the knitting, stay with the business you know
• Simple form organization, lean staff, minimal HQ staff
• Simultaneous loose-tight properties, autonomy plus central values

7 Habits of Highly Effective People
• Be proactive, acting in anticipation of future problems, needs, or changes
• Begin with the end in mind
• Put first things first
• Think win/win
• Seek to understand then to be understood
• Coordinate team members to achieve big
• Sharpen the saw, value training

7 Habits on Ineffective People
• Passive and do not think ahead
• Do not know what the goal is
• Works problems in the wrong order
• Thinks success means failure somewhere else
• Do not listen and understand
• Do not work in a team
• Do not improve their skills

Taoism
• Seek to organize the body and mind to nurture life
• Adjust lifestyle habits; meditation, physical environment, food and exercise to create a holistic system for well being
• Align with nature, become deeply in touch with yourself and naturally express ethics and morality

Super Forecasters Traits
• Triage and work on problems with big payoffs
• Break big unsolvable problems into small ones
• Balance insider and outsider views
• Do not over react or under react to evidence
• Look for clashing and causal forces in each problem
• Identify the degree of doubt, but no more
• Balance over confidence with under confidence, prudence with decisiveness
• Look for errors behind the mistakes, avoid hindsight and rear view mirror biases
• Bring out the best in others, let others bring out the best in you
• Master error balancing bicycle by doing it, not just reading about.  Get unambiguous feedback about failures and successes

Caribou Eskimo Shaman
• The only true wisdom lives far from mankind, out in the great loneliness, and can only be reached through suffering.  Privation and suffering alone open the mind to all that is hidden to others.

Jeff Volek, PhD RD
• Low carbohydrate expert, scientific researcher
• “I want to enhance knowledge that would help to better human health.”
• “I’m studying a topic that directly relates to human health, human empowerment, and helping people feel better. That’s what diet can do.  It can have very profound effects on your health and your quality of life and we really need to be open-minded about finding the right diet”

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